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Which gemstone is right for me?

Updated: Oct 12, 2022

You might have heard that diamonds are versatile and perfect for everyday. So...does that mean you should stick to diamonds or choose a unique coloured gemstone that speaks to YOU?

With such a great variety of gemstones to choose from, deciding which one is the right stone for you can get overwhelming.

Good news, I'm here to help!

Woman's hand wearing a cushion cut blue zircon and diamond halo rose gold cocktail ring, diamond stacking ring, frilly white blouse and hot pink nails

The best way to choose your perfect stone is to ask yourself these 4 Easy Questions:

  • What colours do I love?

  • What colours do I wear?

  • What occasion would I wear this ring / necklace / earrings for?

  • What is my birthstone?

Woman's hand wearing a selection of coloured gemstone engagement rings on her index finger

Let's take a closer look at each one to help you decide!

1. What colours do I love?

Check out these gemstone options according to colour.

colourful macarons on a vintage glass plate

Blue: sapphire, aquamarine, blue zircon, tanzanite

Green: green sapphire, teal sapphire, emerald, alexandrite, green tourmaline, tsavorite garnet, peridot

Pink: pink sapphire, pink tourmaline, Padparadscha sapphire

Peach: peach sapphire, morganite

Purple: purple sapphire, amethyst, tanzanite

selection of colourful flowers

White: white sapphire, diamond, opal

Red: ruby, garnet

Orange: orange sapphire, citrine, spessartite garnet

Yellow: yellow sapphire, citrine


FIY: Sapphires are available in all colours of the rainbow, check out these beauties below!

They are perfect for everyday wear, so can't go wrong there! Just pick a colour that speaks to YOU.


selection of loose sapphires in different colours on a white silk blouse

2. What colours do I wear?

Is the majority of your wardrobe colourful or neutral / monochrome?

Depending on whether you are looking to add a pop of colour to your everyday life or keep it simple with a touch of sparkle here is something to think about...

3. What occasion would I wear my ring / necklace / earrings for?

  • Everyday wear (e.g. your favourite jewellery, right hand ring, engagement ring)

  • Occasional wear (e.g a cocktail ring)

  • Specific event (elegant earrings for a wedding)

  • To go with a specific outfit (statement necklace to go with your new dress)

Woman wearing a selection of coloured gemstone rings on her index finger


Pro Tip: When it comes to choosing the perfect gemstone, don't forget to consider the stone's durability


woman's hand wearing a cushion shape sapphire and diamond halo white gold engagement ring

A stone's hardness (resistance to scratching) is measured on the Moh's scale out of 10.

Diamonds and sapphires (above) score a 10 and a 9, they are perfect for everyday wear.

The science behind hardness and durability can get a little dull so...

Let's keep it simple!

Cushion cut Montana sapphire and diamond halo yellow gold engagement ring

Great options for everyday wear and engagement rings:

Diamond: 10

Sapphire (in any colour) 9

Ruby: 9

Alexandrite: 8.5

Morganite, Emerald, Aquamarine: 7.5 - 8 (some extra care required)


Like what you see?

The Cerelia Ring (pictured above) is a one-of-a-kind ring featuring a striking green sapphire ethically sourced from Montana is available for purchase from our Ready-to-Wear Collection


cushion shape blue zircon and diamond halo rose gold cocktail ring in a light blue hexagonal ring box

Great for occasional wear:

Garnet: 6.5 - 7.5

Green / Pink Tourmaline: 7 - 7.5

Quartz (Amethyst, Citrine): 7

Peridot: 6.5 - 7

Blue Zircon: 6 - 7.5

Tanzanite: 6 - 7

Opal: 5 - 6.5


Pro Tip: If you are choosing a stone that is on the softer side, consider choosing it for a pendant or earrings instead of a ring, especially if you are hard on your jewellery


round morganite and diamond halo rose gold stud earrings next to a white flower


My advice is: don't shy away from selecting a coloured gemstone for your engagement ring just because it is not a diamond or a sapphire, but be more careful while wearing it


woman's hand wearing a pear shape morganite and diamond halo rose gold engagement ring next to a pink flower

For example, I know Morganite tends to get a bad rep when it comes to choosing an engagement ring, but if warn with care, morganite is great for everyday wear.


To learn more, check out my previous blog post:

Is Morganite a good stone for an engagement ring?


woman's hand holding a light blue hexagonal ring box with a pear shape morganite and diamond halo rose gold engagement ring

Our Veronica Ring featuring a pear shape Morganite and diamond halo in rose gold is available for purchase from our Ready-to-Wear Collection

pear shape morganite and diamond halo rose gold necklace next to a pink flower

4. What is my birthstone?

Although you don’t have to stick to a stone assigned to your birthday month, it’s a great place to start when choosing a gemstone for your new piece of jewellery.

Many cultures associate gemstones with birthdays and zodiac signs and have done so for centuries.

cushion cut amethyst rose gold earrings next to a glass vase with flowers

In 1912, Jewelers of America came up with a list of 12 gemstones (one for every month) that would be associated with a person’s birth month and known as their “birthstone”.

Since then, some extra gems have been added to the list meaning that some months like December, have two birthstones (blue zircon and tanzanite), lucky!


Discover more about your birthstone here


Still can't decide which gemstone is right for you?

Let's chat!

To discuss your options, schedule a complimentary, 30 minute connection call with me here

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