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How to choose the perfect gemstone for ME?

With such a great variety of gemstones to choose from, deciding which one is perfect for you can get overwhelming.

Good news, I'm here to help!

Woman's hand with neutral ombre nails wearing an oval blue green teal sapphire and diamond halo white gold engagement ring next to purple and white flowers

The best way to choose your perfect stone is to ask yourself these 4 Easy Questions:

  • What colours do I love?

  • What colours do I wear?

  • What occasion would I wear this ring / necklace / earrings for?

  • What is my birthstone?

Woman's hand wearing a selection of coloured gemstone engagement rings on her index finger

Let's take a closer look at each question to help you decide!

1. What colours do I love?

If you are drawn to specific colours, that's a great place to start when choosing the perfect gemstone for you!

Here are some examples to help you get started.

colourful macarons on a vintage glass plate

Peach: peach sapphire, morganite

selection of colourful flowers

White: white sapphire, diamond, opal

Red: ruby, garnet

Orange: orange sapphire, citrine, spessartite garnet

Yellow: yellow sapphire, citrine


FIY: Sapphires are available in all colours of the rainbow, check out these beauties below!

They are perfect for everyday wear, so you can't go wrong there!

Just pick a colour that speaks to YOU.


selection of loose sapphires in different colours on a white silk blouse

2. What colours do I wear?

Is the majority of your wardrobe colourful and full of prints or neutral / monochrome?

Depending on whether you are looking to add a pop of colour to your everyday life or keep it simple with a touch of sparkle here is something to think about...


For example:

if I'm wearing leopard print and bright red nails I often choose diamond stacking rings to finish off my look


Woman's hand wearing diamond stacking rings, leopard print blouse and red nails

3. What occasion would I wear my ring / necklace / earrings for?

  • Everyday wear (e.g. your favourite jewellery, right hand ring, engagement ring)

  • Occasional wear (e.g a cocktail ring)

  • Specific event (elegant earrings for a wedding)

  • To go with a specific outfit (statement necklace to go with your new dress)


Pro Tip: When it comes to choosing the perfect gemstone, don't forget to consider the stone's durability

If you work a lot with your hands or love baking and gardening I highly recommend choosing a necklace or earrings for everyday wear, instead of a ring


round morganite and diamond halo rose gold stud earrings next to a pink flower

The science behind gemstones' hardness and durability can get a little dull so...

Let's keep it simple!

A stone's hardness (resistance to scratching) is measured on the Moh's scale out of 10.

Diamonds and sapphires score a 10 and a 9, they are top choices for everyday wear.

Cushion cut green Montana sapphire and diamond halo yellow gold engagement ring

Great options for everyday wear and engagement rings:

Sapphire (in any colour) 9

Ruby: 9

Morganite, Emerald, Aquamarine: 7.5 - 8 (some extra care required)


Like what you see?

The Cerelia Ring (pictured above) is a one-of-a-kind ring featuring a striking green sapphire ethically sourced from Montana, available for purchase from our Ready-to-Wear Collection


cushion shape blue zircon and diamond halo rose gold cocktail ring in a light blue hexagonal ring box

Great for occasional wear:

Garnet: 6.5 - 7.5

Quartz (Amethyst, Citrine): 7

Peridot: 6.5 - 7

Blue Zircon: 6 - 7.5

Opal: 5 - 6.5

4. What is my birthstone?

Although you don’t have to stick to a stone assigned to your birthday month, it’s a great place to start when choosing a gemstone for your new piece of jewellery.

Many cultures associate gemstones with birthdays and zodiac signs and have done so for centuries.

pear shape emerald and diamond halo white gold drop earrings

In 1912, Jewelers of America came up with a list of 12 gemstones (one for every month) that would be associated with a person’s birth month and known as their “birthstone”.

Since then some extra gems have been added to the list meaning that some months like October and December, have two birthstones, lucky you!

woman's hand with neutral ombre nails wearing a round opal and diamond halo white gold ring next to purple and white flowers


Discover more about your birthstone in my previous post:


Woman’s hand with ombre nails holding a large grey velvet ring box with a selection of engagement rings next to a white bouquet of flowers, padparadscha sapphire rose gold ring, morganite rose gold ring, blue green teal sapphire white gold ring, green Montana sapphire yellow gold ring, opal white gold ring

Still can't decide which gemstone is right for you?

Let's chat!

To discuss your options, schedule a complimentary, 30 minute connection call with me here

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